Phew!  It’s been a long time since I posted something here.  Well okay, not that long I guess, it just feels like a really long time.  This must be what it feels like when you miss an appointment (or three) with your therapist, right?

So a LOT has been happening.  We had to take Mom back to the ER again and spent several hours there on a Saturday evening a few weeks back.  They couldn’t help her with the pain she was having in her arm but while we were there SIL asked the hospital social worker for help in moving Mom to another care facility.  She’s now in a very nice skilled nursing home much like the one we’d wanted to move her to earlier.  Her room was originally a 3-patient room but now has only two beds which really opens up the space.  In addition she has a sliding patio door which lets in a lot of light.  A couple of weeks ago we had two of the grandkids for the weekend along with their aunt, our favorite daughter K.  They all went with us to visit Mom that Sunday and they went nuts decorating her area.  They cut out construction paper hearts, flowers, grass and even hung up a wreath they’d found on sale at the JoAnn’s by our house.  Mom wasn’t doing well that day, she still had a lot of pain in a new and different area.  But you could see her pleasure – more at the company I think than the new interior design.  And later I’m sure she looked on their handiwork and knew she was loved. She’s doing much better now; we can even take her out on field trips!

About 3 weeks ago our youngest daughter K came to stay with us for a while.  She and the almost son-in-law are done.  As nice a man as he is with us, and as much as I truly believe he loves her, he is also verbally abusive.  When K texted us she was scared, we hit the road to pick her up ASAP.  The next day we returned again with a U-Box in tow for most of her stuff.  She’s been with us ever since and understandably sails between grief, anger and bitterness. There’s laughter and happiness too – she’s not letting this stop her from moving on.  In fact, they’re still somewhat congenial – hell, they work in the same place it’s kind of necessary.  Plus she’s very close to his young daughter and nieces and they both want those relationships to continue.  I’m not telling parents out there anything new, but it’s difficult to watch your child suffer, even when they’re all grown up.  We just want them to be happy, don’t we?  She’ll get there; she’s mostly positive and right now she just needs a safe place to be while she clears up her credit and gets on her feet.  I’m glad we can do that for her, though it helps she’s our favorite.  We commute to Seattle together now and that’s fun too.  This weekend I think we need pedicures.

Around the same time that all of the above was happening I began experiencing pain in my calf.  It started out more of an annoyance but over a few days it quickly became severe enough I grew worried.  I’d never felt this kind of pain before – and my lower leg was sometimes hugely swollen – never a good sign.  At times it felt as though the muscle in my calf would rip apart when I walked it was so tight.  Finally, last week I mentioned it to my chiropractor and he took a look before recommending I have my regular doctor check it out.  Since I see a naturopath near where I live that meant I’d have to take at least a half day off work.  Not possible with half a dozen secretaries out of the office and only 3 of us to cover all their folks and our own.  But my chiropractor’s office is less than 3 blocks from my office and it’s full service – they have a naturopath on staff.  I was able to get an appointment with her for yesterday.

Dr. E was very thorough and I think she’s going to be my new regular provider.  After the usual questions and answers, and review of medical history she took my vitals and examined my leg.  Then she said she wanted to send me for an ultrasound to confirm there wasn’t a blood clot or clots and she went to make an appointment for me.  I didn’t think it was a big deal at first, but something about her tone when she popped back into the room to ask how soon I could get to the place made me re-think it.  Apparently my symptoms were similar to deep vein thrombosis (DVT) which IS a big deal.  If the ultrasound showed a clot I would need to go on blood thinners immediately, albeit temporarily.  That scared me.

After checking in at work and requesting an Uber car, I tracked down the Swedish facility where I had both legs scanned by the ultrasound tech.  Following the scans she left to call Dr. E while I cleaned off the remnants of the gel they use – yeesh!  Boy did that bring back memories of my pregnancies!  When she returned she explained there were no clots and my doctor would be calling me to follow up.  Phew!

So I’m standing at the bus stop across the street waiting for the bus to my office when Dr. E calls my cell phone.  How’s that for service?  It was hard to hear her but the gist was that she confirmed there were no clots but it did appear I’d had a Baker’s cyst which had ruptured.

Say what?  WTF is a Baker’s cyst?  Not nearly as fun as a baker’s dozen, let me tell you.  I won’t give you all the gory details; suffice it to say a Baker’s cyst can sometimes form behind your knee (especially if the knee has had trauma of some kind – hello knee replacement anyone?).  Usually they’re small; you may not even be aware you have one.  That type can resolve on its own. Other times they’re larger and can be uncomfortable just by existing.  Then you have mine – the cyst bursts and all the synovial fluid drains into your leg causing severe pain and interfering with mobility, sleep, etc.  Dr. E tried to explain what she wanted me to do but as I said, traffic noise made it difficult to hear her so she emailed me a treatment protocol.  When I emailed her questions later in the day she responded very promptly too!  How’s that for service?

Thank goodness it’s only a really painful cyst! I don’t have to take blood thinners! The only downside is that if our more conservative approach to treatment doesn’t help Dr. E may want to have the cyst aspirated. That is so NOT happening!

Now that I’ve grossed you all out my job here is done!  Back to the trenches – happy hump day everyone!


26 thoughts on “Miscellanea

  1. In a nutshell. .YAY for Moms new digs. BOO for K’s situation (& btw, I would SOOOOO not want to be the Dude abusing Big E’s Daughter! Yikes) DOUBLE BOO for the painful cyst. Love you!

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  2. Wow what a whirlwind post ! My dad was told he has a baker’s cyst a few months ago.. and the pain comes and goes.. doc told him the same as yours told you.. except I don’t think dad’s burst.. it just gets in the way and hits nerves, if I understood him correctly..

    Your daughter is so very fortunate to have such a level headed mom..
    But abuse whether verbal, mental or physical, blots out any maybe positive attributes in someone, in my eyes.. The occasional hurtful words will happen, we’re human and can’t help it.. But being abusive as a recognized behavior is past my abilities to even care to see good points.. and that’s because I wouldn’t trust they’re anything more than for appearances sake..
    Bet your daughter is glad I’m not mom.. I am glad you are hers and in a position to help her emotionally as well as physically.. 😊

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  3. A whirlwind, indeed. My dear, thank you for sharing this with us. I wish your mother the best in her state of discomfort, and you in yours. As for your poor daughter … verbal abuse is an undesired trait for any relationship. Most likely the young man had some of this in his own home growing up, not that I wish to condone it or excuse it in any fashion. It is wrong. Please give her my best, and may I suggest therapy? Though it may seem extreme in the circumstance, I can attest that it will help her heal from the lashes of his tongue, and allow her to pursue further relationships (when that time comes, of course) without fear that the past will sabotage
    Have a good day!


  4. I hope you don’t have too much pain with that. What a relief it was not a clot ! Supermom, took care of your girl so quick like that, I was in awe. It sounds like that new place is somewhere your mom can really settle into. I’m glad to hear she’s had improvement.
    Good to see you ~

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  5. Every time I make an appointment with my therapist, she cancels. Think she’s trying to tell me something. She’s a Freudian, so I do all the talking when I get an hour with her. All she says is, “uh-huh.” That really isn’t helping.

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  6. Life seems so stressful for you at the moment. So sorry about your mom’s pain – we all wish we could magically take that away but glad that your Baker’s cyst is nothing to worry about. Your daughter is lucky to have a mother like you.

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  7. I only just read this, but I sincerely hope your calf is doing better by now. I’m so relieved that it wasn’t something that required blood thinners, but I know that a pain in the leg can become a pain in the ass pretty quickly! Good vibes and well wishes to you (and your family, too).

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